Beyonce has given an intimate interview to the upcoming edition of Cosmopolitan magazine.

Bey revealed she likes to make an effort to make herself feel attractive.
She said: “You should put on good music and something that makes you feel great.

“I love a pair of high, sexy stilettos with a beautiful dress, but you have to find out what works for you – whether it’s doing the whole smoky eyes thing or a natural look. And never be predictable. Mix it up, surprise him, change your hair – be the woman he knows with a little bit of a twist.”

“The most alluring thing a woman can have is confidence. You can be beautiful but if you’re not secure in yourself, you don’t come across as sexy.

“You have to feel good about yourself to make others feel good about you. Don’t focus on the bits you don’t like.

“Look at yourself in a different way and work out what it is you do like.”

This is why I love Bey! Fabulous advice! I’m sure Jay Z isn’t complaining…

I saw on twitter a few weeks ago that you all did a Q & A, and I finally worked up the courage to email my question for answers from you & the general public.

Q: Well I recently got out of a pretty serious relationship and even though I’m not looking to jump into another any time soon I would still like to go out and date and just have fun for the time being. Emotionally, I don’t feel ready enough to be with anyone new at the moment; plus the fact that I just want to focus on my family, friends, and college. Like I said, that doesn’t mean I don’t want to go out and date and meet new people. Well, the thing I’ve been wondering is I want to date and get to know other women, but I don’t want sex. I’m not saying that sex will happen just because I’m out in the dating world again, but am I wrong in thinking that sex will just complicate things if by some chance it ever went that far if I meet someone new in the future? I’m not saying I don’t like sex, don’t get me wrong. I’m a 19 year old girl, sex crosses my mind pretty frequently. But I just feel like sex would just complicate things on so many levels. I’m just not interested in doing anything like that until I know for sure that it will lead into a serious thing or until marriage. Am I wrong on this?

A: It seems to me you’ve reached a very rational conclusion for a 19 year old. Sex doesn’t always complicate things, but it most certainly can and usually does. Of course, if you do meet someone you really click with and start dating seriously, refusing to have sex can complicate things as well. There is no easy answer on this. And if you have a strong drive, abstinence can complicate keeping your mind on anything else. But I am sure you can get a hand on that problem.

I think you are heading in exactly the right direction in your decision to just date for fun and to get to know some new friends. Enjoy it, and learn from it. And if it seems that a person you are dating is worried about why you are avoiding sex, be open and candid about your reasons. Anyone unwilling to respect your reasons may not be the right person for you for a long-term relationship anyway. Good luck!

Today, I went the movies for lunch with a fun. We thought we were the only people in the movie theatre until we heard moans coming from up top. Now I’m not sure if the couple was having sex, but it sure sounded like it.

Which brings me to today’s “Wild Wednesday” topic… Is Public Sex okay!?

Public sex can be a very spontaneous gesture and quite excitng IF you don’t get caught. And I don’t mean only by authorities but by innocent citizens as well. For example the couple in the movies; if they were there all alone, go at it! But since my friend and I came in they should’ve turned it down a notch or stopped.

Please keep in mind that it is illegal in some states and will be charged as disorderly conduct and indecent exposure in others!

Now…back to public sex being okay. lol! To be successful you will need the following items:

- a fundamental lack of decency and shame
- bail money
- loose hamstrings
- and adventurous, short-to-average partner. (Really tall guys are hot, good for reaching things on a top shelf, but not great for stuffing into small places and screwing. Congrats average guys. Public sex is your time to shine.)

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Sadism is pleasure in the infliction of pain or humiliation upon another person, while masochism is pleasure in receiving the pain. These practices are often related and are collectively known as sadomasochism as well as S&M…

-wiki

Last night with the new premeire of the game, I couldn’t help but notice how Megan Good continually smacked Hosea during sex and how he seemed to like it. On Rihanna’s latest album “LOUD” the first song is titled “S&M” where she states “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but chains and whips excite me!” Also don’t act like you’ve never heard a rapper say that they to choke chicks out during sex.

All of these examples makes one wonder…is S&M okay? Is it more common in today’s society? Am I considered “too” freaky if I like it?

I honestly think S&M is fine. If it is embarked on properly. I actually just look at it as a form of role-playing. As long as there is no physical injury involved, and as long as you are not letting this dominant-submissive behavior pattern spill into your relationship outside the bedroom, I say this is perfectly fine. It is not unusual for people to have S&M fantasies. Not everyone enjoys acting out these fantasies. For some people, though, it is highly erotic to enact a fantasy involving dominance, submission, sadism, or masochism. It is not a mental illness. If no one gets hurt, there is no problem. However, if someone is forcing this role-playing upon a partner who doesn’t want to engage in it, or if it leads to physical injury, then it is a problem. It can also be a problem if you are sexually aroused ONLY playing submissive and dominant roles, or if you are so obsessed with this that you think about nothing else. In that case, it could be a perversion. If your relationship moves in either of these directions, beware. But if you are not in that kind of relationship. Have fun. You are lucky that you and your partner speak the same language when it comes to this kind of role-playing!

I pondered on what today’s “Wild Wednesday” topic would be… until I was on the phone with my girl and she was saying that there is not a sexy way to put on a condom! She stated “I hate how it seems to create ”time out” of romance and passion.” Then she went on to blame that as a reason for not using them. Hmm…. I beg to differ!

Q: How can you better incorporate the putting on of a condom during sex?

A:First, be creative people! Many couples engage in lots of non-penetrative foreplay before moving on to intercourse and refrain from actually putting on the condom until just before insertion. This is fine, just so long as your partner’s penis and your vulva don’t come into contact; remember, sperm and STDs can be transmitted before actual intercourse. If you tend to get carried away during your foreplay, (like R.Kelly, lol!) be sure to introduce a condom early on. Don’t worry about the condom falling off of his erection…usually that never happens due to elastic on the end will hold it on firmly. Now if you’re being a bit ambitious (buying larger condoms than needed) then you may have a problem in this area.

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Boo Season is upon us! When its cold outside everyone wants someone to keep them warm. Sure, the summer months are filled with outdoor dinner dates, picnics, beach days, and travel to far-flung hot spots, but that doesn’t mean romance has to die when winter rolls around? Unlike me…everyone doesn’t like going out during the winter cold months. I have come up with ways to make staying in doors fun! Simply observe the fabulous ways you can keep your man/woman melting like a cube of ice on a waffle iron.

1. Get a Sexy Robe!
Who ever said robes are for old people clearly never shopped at Victory Secrets or Macys!? Robes are like panties; if you buy the right kind, they can arouse your man like quicker than a porno. Therefore, in this season of wind chills and snowflakes try on a robe that is both thermal heating for your body and his. He’ll have fun untying the belt. Lol!

2. Make Christmas Shorts!
And no I don’t mean shorts as in apparel! I mean as in your own kinky Christmas short film! Make Charlie Brown’s “Christmas Special” or “The Grinch” naughty, and whenever it comes on you’ll be reminded of your dirty deed!

3. Do You Remember The Time?
While indoors on a quiet evening. Make a lot of racket! Blast old school or new school love jams! Reminisce about what you were doing when they came out. Think about who you were dating or any escapades you had while the song was playing and discuss. This could turn into you making your own memories to your favorite love songs.

4.Fireplaces are not just for Warming a Room!
You don’t have to be a lumberjack to appreciate the sensual smell of cherry wood smoldering under the soft light of a three-wick candle. A well-built fire for two is not only going green but is also going red, red hot with sexual tension. The flickering of the flame against the backdrop of a wild winter night can make mortal enemies want to strip down to there undergarments and cuddle until dawn!

Those are just a few of my own! If you have any to add feel free to comment and discuss!

Winter is not about sitting around and packing on weight, nor is it about snow shovels and icicles. Winter is all about the joys of cool temperature sexual fun.

Enjoy!

Having impromptu sex or sex in an unexpected location: what’s not to like? It gets your adrenaline going and your oxytocin levels are flying every which way! Anywho, what may seem like a good idea at the time may actually lead to one of the worst and/or most uncomfortable moments of your life.  Here I have listed the worst places to have sex….

1.  A waterbed

This classifies as a wild and crazy place, because honestly, who even has one of these relics anymore?  Classy late 20th century history buffs, obviously, THAT’S WHO!  So, yeah, contrary to popular belief, the waterbed actually does not enhance the lovemaking process.  Rather, it hinders it terribly, as you have zero control over the “waves” (“motion in the ocean”, if you will), and thus, one can’t really get a good bearing at any given point.  Not to mention the fact that once you’re done and actually sleeping on the damn thing, any little move the other person turns your sleeping experience into a veritable tidal wave of annoyance.  I think the only person who could’ve possibly concluded this waterbed thing is a good idea is the Sea Captain from the Simpsons.  But at least he admitted (in episode 8, season 5!) , after selling a boat to Homer that sunk about 2 seconds later, that “Yarr, I don’t know what I’m doin’.”

2.  A bar/club  bathroom

Ok, I’ve actually never done this, but is seems GROSS.  Am I right??  I can barely actually GO to the bathroom at a bar/club, because half the time, it’s flooded, has tons of pee on the seat, has no toilet paper, and/or is crowded with cranky girls that really have to pee and/or coke it up.  Perhaps if you’re going for that whole Nancy Spungen lifestyle, you won’t mind, and in fact, may find these features all the MORE enticing.  But I’m one of those old timey wackos who likes to keep my vagina infection-free.  Also, in smaller bathrooms, you’re just asking to get a cramp in your upper leg.  If you must have sex in a bathroom, because you can’t resist that romantic lighting, as a safer alternative, I suggest having sex in a home bathroom of a person you dislike.  That way, you’re really sticking it to them, while sticking it to yourself in a way more fun way!

3.  A hottub and/or underwater

If you can calm yourself from the hilarity of this picture for one moment, you will realize that having sex in a hot tub COULD KILL YOU!  Well, not exactly, but, if you really think about it, hot tubs and/or pools are totally counterintuitive to having the sex.  First off, if you’re one of those brave souls who’s decided on a PUBLIC pool and/or jacuzzi for your vaginal intercourse hot spot, you, my friend, are having sex in the midst of THOUSANDS OF PEOPLE’S PEE and, possibly, traces of poop.  If the public pool is not your cup o’ tea (or should I say PEE?  Oh man, I kill me!), you’re looking at a one way ticket to Drysville, Population: Your Vagina.  Despite the fact that you couldn’t get any “wetter” by being submerged in water, it actually dries you out, thereby causing uncomfortable chafing to all parties involved.  However, I daresay I cannot vouch the same for a pasta-filled tub o’ love.

4.  A Twin Bed

Is there anything worse than a stupid twin bed?  This may seem like a fun way to “ride”, if you will.  However, you’ll quickly discover it’s just annoying and it will probably make you feel fat.  Not to mention the fact that if you both decide to actually sleep together there, no one is actually going to “sleep” in the traditional sense of the word.  I had to deal with a twin bed practically all my adolescent life, and I singlehandedly blame it for the reason that I resorted to having sex in places like…

5.  A Random Field

Sure, it seemed better than sneaking a boy into my twin-bedded room at the time, but lemme tell ya, this ain’t no Kevin Costner movie.  And I mean that in the worst possible way.  I mean, as isolated as it may seem, you really could get caught at any moment, plus the fact that you’re laying down on your own clothes as perhaps some sort of barbaric cavewo/man would.  And I guess even then, you’d have loincloths/fur type-outfits, which are probably way more comfortable to lie on.  So basically, what I’m saying is, don’t attempt to recapture the sex of your adolescent years, unless you’re planning on shooting, skinning and fashioning an outfit out of any of the available animals in the area.

6.  A Shower

This can actually be pretty damn hot if you get it right.  However, it can present similar problems linked to the underwater experience, AND if you have any significant height difference with the other party/ies, it can literally not physically work, unless one of the other parties is willing to hold you up for the entire duration.  That can get slippery and wear out stamina.  Not to mention that if you don’t have an adequately sized shower space, forget about it, you’ll have a constant water stream right in the ol’ peepers and a shampoo bottle up your ass in no time.  Unless that’s what you’re going for, in which case, carry on.

Happy Sexing!

If you’re anything like me, some of your sexual encounters have been pretty awkward. Once you’ve been with a girlfriend or boyfriend for a while, they get used to your particular style and you’re in the clear, but you’ll never reach that point if you don’t make it past first-time sex with a new partner. Here are the 7 Stages of First-Time Sex with Someone:

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Tired of boredom in your bedroom? Wanting to add a dash of adventure to your sex sessions? We bring to you a list of top 5 props, which are a must have in every couple’s bedroom! Let the fun begin….

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Looking for the one!? Your soulmate!? The person you can not live without!? Some people meet this person once, and it’s history! Others, not quite. A series of dating and rough relationships come before bliss…This post is for you!

The story is always the same when you meet the most amazing person in the world. They walked in the room, and even though just looking at how beautiful they were made you nervous, you knew you had to talk to them. Three drinks and an hour later, it slowly dawns on you that this angel with the brown eyes and the incredible smile is actually digging you. And not in that “I’m wasted, and I’m clearly going to fuck you” kind of way, either. I’m talking about an immediate connection that is electric, full of hope and fear and dizziness and excitement in such a way that you know your life will never be the same. This is how meeting a future girlfriend works; she will always feel like the most amazing girl in the world. Even though it ends up being wrong every time (so far), part of being a human being is accepting the illusion.

Inevitably you start dating, and everything is just dandy. Bar attendance plummets, odds of watching “Entourage” or “Sex & The City” increase exponentially, and your friends will grow increasingly worried about who is really in possession of your life. You and your significant other will spend outrageous amounts of time watching movies, constantly hearing about their problems, going out to eat, driving them around, listening to the minute details of every one of their godforsaken days, and just generally being completely up each others asses. Every relationship has its apex, it’s only sad that we never get to recognize and appreciate it until the slope of our love curve changes to negative. Whether THIS relationship ends suddenly, or whether it dies a slow and painful death, the end result is the same: BREAKUP.

Now you could try to be a mature person about the breakup, but we all know how completely unrealistic that is. Look at it this way: was the Soviet Union still cool with the Nazis after Hitler broke their peace treaty and attacked the Russians? Hell no, the breaking of a treaty (or a long-term relationship) clearly means war. After the breakup has commenced, any remaining loyalties should be considered useless. If love is a battlefield, then the breakup is the decisive battle, motherfucker (Samuel Jackson voice). Here’s how to win it:

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